Three Keys to Being Real

Being real, and working toward understanding who we are, is really hard work. It’s not just daily, it can be hourly. Minute by minute. 

But over the past six months or so I’ve been learning (much to my frustration, of course) some keys that seem to be relevant in moving forward and becoming more healthy in mind, body and spirit.

I’ve been toying with the idea of making a few videos to unwrap these keys. It’s been a struggle to get myself online lately, let alone on video. But I decided today, after wallowing in my own darkness, that it was time to do something to break the mood. And something to break the current impasse I seem to have with my words 🙃

So I did it. Actually, I made about a dozen takes until I finally felt I was saying what I intended to say! I hope what I share encourages you and makes you feel supported.


6 thoughts on “Three Keys to Being Real

  1. Hey Miriam! This is such a great video! Boy, I agree whole-heartedly with what you’re saying…that wearing our heart on our sleeve frees us to share our stories. Acknowledging what we feel in every moment helps us move forward. But if I had my heart on my sleeve all the time…what is written there might shock people. My feelings are so counter-cultural, and I’m often afraid they’re selfish…so this is why I blog, and write, to have some freedom to be honest. I hope I can have the courage to do this more and more in every day life, despite the fear of people thinking I’m crazy. I love your metaphor of picking up your sword and shield and deciding to fight. It’s given me courage today! And I hope you make more videos!


    1. Hey! Lovely to hear from you 😊

      I think being counter cultural and wearing our hearts on our sleeves could potentially be the same thing too!

      And yes, it has to be done within the parameters of healthy relationships. I am intentionally vocal about my mental health and progress but I certainly don’t share everything. Not because the world can’t handle it but because some things I am still working through and other things are just too private for public comment.

      The sad thing is that so many people have been taught to hide their truth and to bury their feelings with busy work, progress and commodity acquisition.

      I fear that we westerners have been indoctrinated with a contemporary propaganda: to believe the happiness pursuit is the highest one when in reality we live the truth which often looks opposite to this.

      Therein lies the rub that gets people into a state of despair and hopelessness.

      When we feel we cannot unburden our burdens to those we love and trust, what will become of relationships in the future?

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      1. Can I get an AMEN? You said it Miriam! The “happiness pursuit” involves so many superficial things…money and consumerism come to mind, which I suppose are not “bad” in and of themselves, but our attachments to them in the Western world are so unhealthy. The heart on the sleeve is absolutely countercultural–one and the same. I can also relate to your not sharing every intimate detail about your mental health. Advice from one blog post I read stands out to me: “write from your scars, not your wounds.” I have to keep this in mind…I’ve written some blog posts before that were more from wound territory, and people can sense that. It can be inflammatory rather than uplifting. However your experience/reasons for keeping some things private may be totally different. Having a private “self” is important no matter what.


      2. Yeah, money is good for so many things. And even the pure concept of consumerism has its merits but yes, attachment to these things, instead of more lasting values clearly has a drastic effect on the lives of those who succumb to their call.

        I love that advice too: share from your scars. So simple and powerful. I will absolutely keep that one in mind when writing for I have definitely shared from my wounds! Eek.

        Lovely to hear your thoughts too by the way. Stay well!

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      3. Yes, scars vs. wounds–totally indebted to that person who wrote that advice. Unfortunately I can’t remember who it was 😳 But it’s great to hear your thoughts too, and I also hope you stay well 🌟


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